Limiting Beliefs Are Loud, But They Don’t Get the Final Word

“Just because someone is older, or someone you love and trust, doesn’t mean they’re qualified to give you advice. Especially on things they’ve never actually done.”

I started thinking about how often I’d followed advice simply because it came from someone close to me. I never really questioned if they were actually speaking from experience, or just repeating what they thought was right.

The book challenged me to pause and test it. Call someone you usually turn to for advice and ask them a business question you know they have no real background in. So I did.

I called my mom.

I asked her, “What do you think is the best way to structure a corporation for long-term growth?”

Now, my mom has never run a business. She hasn’t worked in anything corporate. But she still gave me an answer. Like she knew. Like it was fact.

Then I asked, “How do you know? Have you ever owned a corporation or worked in one?”

She paused. It threw her off. She didn’t have an answer, and I could tell she hadn’t expected to be questioned. I told her I loved her and I’d call her later, but that moment changed the way I looked at advice forever.

It made something really clear. Even the people we love the most can lead us in the wrong direction without meaning to. Not because they’re trying to hold us back, but because they don’t always know the difference between belief and knowledge.

That’s when I realized I needed to be more intentional about where I seek guidance. I can love someone deeply and still not follow their advice when it comes to the kind of life and business I’m building.

That realization opened the door to a much deeper truth. A lot of the beliefs I was living by weren’t actually mine. They were passed down. Repeated. Absorbed. Not questioned.

Back in 2007, I read Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker, and it introduced the concept of a financial blueprint. Basically, the internal map we’re all carrying around that shapes how we relate to money. 

One of the mindset shifts that really helped me years ago came from a book that still sits on my shelf today: Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker. It’s where I first learned about the concept of a financial blueprint—and it honestly changed how I saw everything.

If you're curious and want to check it out, here’s the book. 

My blueprint was full of scarcity and guilt. It was built on ideas like:

• Money is hard to earn
• Success is for other people
• Don’t ask for too much
• Be grateful for anything you get

That kind of thinking might have made sense in past generations. Our parents and grandparents grew up in times where the focus was on saving, not growing. On surviving, not thriving. But we don’t live in that world anymore, and those old ideas won’t get us where we want to go.

We’re allowed to think differently. We’re allowed to want more.

 
The shift didn’t come from reading books or writing affirmations. It came from catching myself in the middle of those old thoughts and choosing something else.

Like when I’d start to feel guilty for wanting ease in my life. Or when I’d find myself hesitating to move forward with an idea just because it didn’t look like the traditional path.

I learned to pause and ask, “Is this true? Or is this just what I’ve always believed?”

That question has become one of my best tools. It helps me stop those inherited beliefs before they shape my choices. It helps me choose based on who I’m becoming, not who I used to be.

 
This work isn’t just about money. It’s about clarity. It’s about being free in your mind, not just your circumstances.

Because while limiting beliefs can be loud, they don’t get to run the show unless we let them.

You get to decide what stays and what goes.

So maybe now is the time to ask yourself:
Whose voice have you been listening to?
And are they really qualified to shape the way you live, build, and grow?

You don’t have to carry beliefs just because someone handed them to you.
You can choose different ones.
You can plant better seeds.
And your kids, or the people watching you, will grow from those instead.

And here's what I’ve learned since that phone call, since that book, since those early questions. Rewiring your beliefs isn’t just mental. It’s spiritual.

I’ve made six vision boards over the years. Not because it’s trendy, but because clarity matters. You have to see what you’re moving toward. You have to believe it’s already yours, even before there’s any proof.

And I say it out loud. Every single day. With conviction.
These are some of the affirmations that have helped rewire my blueprint:

• I am a magnet for aligned opportunities
• My success is safe
• I receive with ease and without guilt
• I am building wealth that reflects who I truly am
• I trust myself to lead, to grow, and to thrive
• I no longer shrink to fit old beliefs

Manifestation isn’t just about wishing. It’s about aligning how you think, speak, and act with the reality you’re creating. You don’t get what you want. You get what you believe.

So I keep choosing belief. I keep showing up like the woman I already am. I keep trusting that the goals I’ve set are already on their way, because I’ve already started becoming the version of me who receives them.

That’s not magic. That’s alignment.

And it works.

Until next tide,

Chantal

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